Foundations

Creating a Road Map for Your Life

There is a sweet beauty to serendipity. We meet a new lover by chance.  We cross paths with an old friend. We find the perfect dress for that carupcoming event. We wander into a nifty coffee shop and discover the perfect writing environment.

The spirit of serendipity has brought me to some of the best moments in my life.

Life is like this amazing road trip: there are all kinds of fascinating and fabulous places to stop along the way.

I never would have experience the wonders of my gypsy years with it.  And, in fact, I never would have met JB if it weren’t for a serendipitous moment in DC.

But let me tell you something, darling.

If you want to create a life you love on this road trip of life, you can’t rely only on serendipity, you need a road map!

You need a vision.  And a plan.

Let’s be honest here. Most of us (including me in the past!) simply exist. We become passive spectators, watching life unfold a day at a time.

We may plan a vacation, the building of a new home or their careers, but don’t think about creating a vision or plan for life.   We put more effort into a wedding than we put into the actual living of a blended life.

We tell ourselves that if we create a plan, we’ll miss out on the serendipity.

I get it. And though I hate the word “balance” when it comes to our soul’s purpose, there is this beautiful space of greater satisfaction that can be achieved with just a little forethought.  This happens when you create a vision for your life, a plan to achieve your most important dreams, and allow for adventure.

Darling, life is short.  And you deserve to be squeezing every drop of living out of it.

I wish I could tell you the number of people that find themselves disillusioned, discouraged and unhappy.  They get into their late 30’s, 40’s, or even 70’s and wonder what went wrong.  Their career feels stalled, their marriage feels broken, or maybe their health is failing.

It’s a point where a person may wonder, “what the hell am I doing here?  I thought that I would be there.

But here’s the real deal:  it doesn’t have to be this way.  You can choose, no matter how young or old you are, to create a vision for your life and a plan to reach your dreams.

Still not sure about this whole concept of creating a Vision and a Plan for your life?  Here are six delicious reasons to consider it.

Creating a vision will help you identify your current realities.

You can’t get where you want to go unless you start with where you are. What are the most brutal realities of your life? Where are you falling short? Where do you know you need to improve?  Taking stock and making peace with who we are has to be the starting ground.

Creating a vision will equip you with envisioning a better future.

Yes, you need to need to acknowledge where you are, but you also need to see clearly where you are going. What do you want in each of the major categories of your life? What would they look like in their ideal state?

This is where it starts to get fun!  You. Creating a big juicy vision for your life.

Taking your vision and creating a life plan gives you a place to aim the arrow.

Then comes your life plan.  This isn’t about a set-in-stone list of steps and to-do’s.  It doesn’t have to be complicated.

No, darling, this is a road map for accomplishing what matters most.   It’s about knowing where you are, setting your destination and plotting your course to get there.  Darling, to achieve your dreams, you need to take action.  And a life plan gives you the fuel to be bolder.

Creating a vision will help you clarify your most important priorities.

Identifying your priorities and values helps you mark the milestones on your course.  Your boss has priorities for you.  You were always given objectives in school and college.  But what about you? Do you have a list? What is important to you?

Creating a vision will help you say “no” to things that aren’t important.

Once you have said “yes” to what matters most, you are in a great position to say “no” to those activities that matter less. Suddenly you have the clarity—and the courage—to manage your opportunities rather than to be managed by them.

A vision and a plan is like road side assistance. 

You want to enjoy this road trip of life.  And you certainly can’t control everything.  There are going to be bumps and detours and road construction along the way.  But creating a vision and a plan gives you the insurance of help as you travel.  Your vision will dramatically improve your chances of arriving at your  destination feeling joyful, content, and satisfied.

It will be clear to you that you really lived.

PS – Need help identifying your current realities?  It begins with awareness….  My eBook “Are You Ready to Roar?” is FREE and includes a 22-Question questionnaire to help.  (And if you decide Make Your Inner Sex Kitten Roar fits your needs, the return of the questionnaire gives you a nifty discount on tuition.)

About Debra Smouse

By Debra Smouse: Writer, life coach, and Tarnished Southern Belle, Debra helps people fall in love with their life. An expert de-tangler, she believes in busting clutter as a path to greater clarity and that everyone woman is vibrant, passionate, and sexy being just itching to make their inner sex kitten roar. A native Texan, she resides in Ohio with the Man of her Dreams.

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